Monday, November 21, 2011

Beauty Services

Beauty Services
photo by Tori Rogers, Hawaiian Island Wedding Planners

Every bride should be pampered on her wedding day...
We work with a variety of beauty specialists who can help make your day stress-free.

Hawaiian Island Wedding Planners Is happy to arrange these services for our clients:

Hair: (remember to have clean, dry hair from the night before and to wear a button down shirt or robe)
It helps to bring a photo of how you’d like to wear your hair. It is also a good idea to schedule a trial session with your stylist on a celebratory day before your wedding day to ensure a seamless beauty session on your wedding day. Many brides like to have this done on the day of their rehearsal dinner. Brides with short hair can still have updos and fancy styles using hair extensions. And, WE know who can make your hair look fabulous on your wedding day!


Makeup Application: Whether it be traditional makeup, airbrush makeup, or a combination of both, we know all of the right people who can provide this special service for you.

Manicure: Your hands will be visible in almost every wedding photo, so make sure your nails look beautiful.

Pedicure (remember to wear your flip-flops

Massage: We can arrange for this to take place in a spa, salon, or in your own hotel room/condo! We know massage therapists who specialize in a variety of techniques, including Lomi Lomi massage, a healting stone massage, or a de-stressing deep tissue massage.

Facial: You will want to have smooth skin for your wedding makeup session. The best way to get that smooth skin is to exfoliate every week. Get facials regularly starting 6 months before your wedding. Papaya Enzyme Masks are great for exfoliation.

Visit these sites for some amazing ideas for hair and makeup.http://weddinghairstylegallery.com/main.php
http://www.sampleweddinghairstyles.info
http://www.hairpedia.com/?gclid=CNm8juHs86cCFWUbQgodzHD5Mg
http://www.doweddingdress.com/Real-Sample-8318-good.html
http://www.hairandmakeupbygeri.com/more_samples
http://www.projectwedding.com/photo/browse?tag=hair
http://www.hairresources.com/page.asp?page_id=106
http://weddings.theknot.com/gallery/gallery_results.aspx?gallery=7&MsdVisit=1

ALOHA WEAR FOR YOUR WEDDING

WHAT TO CONSIDER FOR YOUR BEACH WEDDING

What to consider for your beach wedding


When people think of Hawaii, they think of beautiful beaches. Many wedding magazines display beautiful photos of beach weddings that inspire brides and grooms to follow the beach wedding trend. Beaches in Hawaii are handled a bit differently from beaches elsewhere. Most beaches are government property, even those fronting Hawaii's hotels and resorts. They are not private and people will be frolicking on the beach, even during your wedding. Most people are respectful, but they cannot be forced away from your site. However, rules and restrictions apply, so be sure to learn about those before planning your wedding on a public beach. Although beach weddings present special issues that you would not normally consider at a traditional wedding venue, careful preparation and planning will help to eliminate any unpleasant surprises that may occur otherwise. We hope this proves to be a helpful resource to create a beautiful and joyous beach wedding experience..

COSTS:

Sometimes a beach wedding can be less expensive than a traditional wedding. Be sure to collect estimates for both scenarios and compare. It may be necessary to pay additional delivery fees, permit fees, and set up fees. It is best to select a beach that offers a pavilion or similar structure that will shelter your food and guests at your wedding. Most rental companies will not set up tents on the sand. However, they will set up tents at beach parks on the grassy area, if the government permits it. Keep in mind that you will need to provide lighting, which may require the rental of generators for electricity. You can use tiki torches, but the tropical winds may keep them from staying lit. Battery operated lighting works wonders at a beach setting.

TONE OF YOUR WEDDING:

A beach wedding can be a casual affair. It allows everyone to relax. Your guests can dress comfortably and affordably. A beach wedding allows you to involve everyone in the activities. Guests are not restricted to sitting quietly in their seats.

CONVENIENCE:

The ceremony and reception can all be held right there on the beach. No need to travel to different locations. This is very convenient for everyone. If you decide to have children at your wedding, Check to see if parking and bathroom facilities are available. Note how accessible they are from your wedding location.

CREATIVITY:

A beach wedding provides an opportunity to be creative with your wedding theme and setting. Some of our clients have incorporated a very casual beach theme involving flip flops for all of the guests as favors, beach balls, a volleyball game, and a clambake. Others have created a simple elegance of flowing fabric and lighting. Your budget will determine just how far you can go with your creative visions. Your wedding coordinator will help you adjust your budget to accommodate your beach wedding dreams.

Timing

The beaches and beach parks are very popular venues, so make sure that other events are not taking place at your wedding location. It is best to have your wedding on a Hawaiian beach on a weekday, when locals are not using it for their family picnics, barbecues, and fishing adventures. A little tip: when vacationing in Hawaii, every day is a weekend day for you. Also, many wedding professionals charge less for their services on a weekday. Be sure to check the tide chart so that you set up at an appropriate distance. You certainly do not want the unanticipated waves to wash away your wedding. Lighting will affect your photography and your guests' comfort. Check where the sun will be at the time of your wedding. It is in your best interest to make sure there is shade to protect your guests and food by providing beach umbrellas, parasols, canopies, tents, and/or hold the event in the beach's pavilion. Perhaps there is a cluster of shady trees under which you can have the ceremony. We discourage receptions under the trees due to the amount of uninvited creatures that will be using them, as well.

WEATHER/BACK UP PLAN:

Hawaii is a wondrous tropical paradise, complete with lush green mountains, an abundance of flowers and plant growth, and tall swaying palms. This is part of what attracts us to the islands to get married. Unfortunately, the rain that is required to maintain this beauty may cause some disappointment on your wedding day if you are not adequately prepared. The most important thing to remember when planning a beach wedding is that you have a PLAN B.

OTHER PRODUCTS OF NATURE:

Be prepared for the wind to blow sand around, so protect your guests and your food. The wind and crashing waves may also make it difficult for the guests to hear the most important element of your wedding---the ceremony. Be sure to ask your coordinator and involved wedding professionals for advice regarding sound for the guests and for your video. The seagulls and other uninvited creatures might be interested in your wedding events, as well, so be prepared. Perhaps some citronella torches and candles to keep away the mosquitoes?? You may also want to supply sunscreen and bug repellant for your guests. Keep garbage cans on the outside perimeter of the wedding site so that the creatures stay away from the actual festivities.

RULES TO FOLLOW:

Make sure you check with the parks and recreation department regarding the rules and regulations of the beach location of your wedding. Ask about the following: Can you have candles on the beach? Can you play music into the night? How late can you stay? Is there an area nearby for open fires should you choose to barbeque? Can you set up a tent and rentals (tables, chairs, etc.)? Are you permitted to section off an area? What type of beverages can be served? Is glass permitted, or is plastic required?

OTHER CONSIDERATIONS:

Chairs may sink in the sand if you do not rent flooring to place under them. However, if you are planning a "beach blanket" reception, you will not need chairs. It is also important to consider the needs of your guests with special needs. Plan for their safety and comfort. You will need to provide them with chairs and beach umbrellas to protect them from the elements. They will also need assistance accessing the wedding site and facilities. Be sure to keep an abundant supply of water and beverages to keep hydrated. Keep a first aid kit on hand to assist the adventurers and explorers at your wedding. There are many shells and pieces of coral and lava that can easily cause injury.

The most important item to consider is that you should go with the flow of the day. Regardless of the extensive preparations you consider and put into effect, unexpected things will take place. Just treat these wedding imperfections as memories instead of mistakes. Enjoy and cherish every moment of this very special day! After all, the most important part of your wedding is you, so celebrate each other. Everyone will follow your lead.

This article was written by Tori Rogers, Hawaiian Island Wedding Planners


photo by Joe D'Alessandro Photography

WEDDING TRIBUTE



photo by Wilber Bergado

Sometimes couples wish to honor the memory of those who have passed and cannot be with them on their special day. There are many ways to pay tribute to them. Here are some ideas:
Have a memorial candle lit
Play the person's favorite song
Include the person's favorite flower (or color) in your bouquet
Place small framed photos of those being honored in your bouquet
Place a variety of framed photos on a memory table (perhaps add some items that were special to that person)

Say a prayer or recite a special reading in the person's honor
On an empty guest chair, place a lei, floral arrangement, or flower stem in the person's honor.
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Include a special acknowledgement in your wedding program
Include a moment of silence at your ceremony

Selecting your wedding photographer


By Tori Rogers, Hawaiian Island Wedding Planners




photo by Wilber Bergado Photography

Selecting your wedding photographer is one of the most essential parts of your wedding planning process. Although many couples are budget conscious, it is imperative to consider more than the photographer’s packages or fees when researching and deciding on who will document your milestone celebration. Think about it…would you select your doctor based on the his/her cheapest fees? Of course not! You would consider the professional’s years of experience, how s/he relates to patients and peers, the type of equipment used, the hospital of affiliation, etc. That is how you should think of your photographer…a quality professional using quality equipment, who affiliates with reputable people and organization, has years of experience, and clicks with your personality. You can only capture the moments of your wedding day once…so make sure you choose the right photographer to capture and preserve the memories of your event.

Here are some tips on being an educated shopper for your wedding photographer:

*The Internet and local phone book are excellent resources to start shopping. Also ask your friends and family for recommendations.

* Anyone can design a great web site, so, if you can meet with the photographer in person, try to look through various albums and portfolios. On Hawaii there is a place called the Wedding Café, where some photographers keep sample albums for couples to review at their convenience. If your hometown has a place like that, take advantage of it.

*When looking at a photographer’s portfolio and sample photos, be sure to examine the photographer’s style. Does the style seem to capture the emotions of the people? Are the shots posed? Is there an artistic edge to the photographer’s style? Are the photos more traditional? What is the photographer’s signature shot or style? Some key words include photojournalism, candids, portraits, groups, etc.

*How much time coverage do you want of your event? Do you want photos taken of you getting ready? Do you want coverage of your ceremony and/or reception?

*What is your rapport like with the photographer? Does s/he seem to speak freely with you and make you feel at ease? Is the presentation very structured and impersonal? Does s/he seem helpful about offering photography tips regarding your wedding location or time of day? Did people look relaxed in the photos you viewed?

*What type of equipment is used? How are photos processed?

*Does the photographer attend workshops, conferences, classes, etc. to stay up to date on new photo techniques and equipment?

*How many years has your photographer been specializing in weddings? What type of photography did s/he do before weddings? What does s/he like about being a wedding photographer? Will the main/primary photographer shoot the wedding, or will there be a secondary photographer to take photos? How many photographers are included in the price/package?

*What services are included in the package? Will there be a CD/DVD of high resolution photos (“the rights”) included in your package? Will all of the photos taken be on it? Will there be an Internet viewing of your photos for people to see and order photos? Will photos be edited? What is the turnaround time? Is an album included? If so, learn the different types offered. What is the cost for any over-time charges? Is there a proof album? Are there special items or services that they offer that others do not offer?

*What is the backup plan if the photographer is unable to make it to the wedding? What happens if the photographer is out of business when your wedding date arrives? Is the photographer insured? Is there another memory tool of the photos if the memory card is damaged or lost? Are the photos backed up? Is the photographer insured? Are there unresolved issues with the Better Business Bureau?

*Ask the photographer how his /her approach to your wedding photos would differ from other weddings photographed.

*Ask for references and actually call or email them regarding their experiences with the photographer.

*Make sure you understand the payment policy and any contractual obligations.

*What happens if your wedding date needs to be changed? What is the cancellation policy?

***Your photographer should not be your minister, wedding planner, florist, DJ, or any other professional position in your wedding. For quality professional photography, your photographer should ONLY be a professional photographer and not a person with any other responsibilities.

Planning Your Wedding: Where to begin

Congratulations, you have just become engaged to your soul-mate
! Once the excitement of that calms down a bit, the reality of the wedding planning details begin to overwhelm you. The question most commonly asked by the couple is, "Where do I begin?"
Hopefully, the information we have gathered and composed for you will serve as a helpful resource. Hiring a wedding planner is super important because we know how to handle all of the details, including the important ones that are not considered by the couple until it is too late. We may also be able to obtain some discounts for you that you would not ordinarily be able to get on your own. Most importantly, we think of EVERYTHING and handle ALL of the elements of the wedding day. One of the biggest mistakes brides say they make is NOT hiring a wedding coordinator to handle the many details and problems that occur on the day of, including vendors and guests calling for information and confirmation.
Information about your budget is listed below. But, it is VERY important to remember the following: EVERY ISLAND and EVERY VENDOR and EVERY LOCATION is priced differently. We cannot just give prices on the phone for everything, as there is just too much information to consider. To maintain our professionalism, we are happy to receive a detailed request and provide one estimate before we are hired. Professional coordinators work diligently with their contracted clients regarding ALL of the details, including information about the location options, professionals, suggestions, resources, ways to save money, etc. But, this is not something a professional coordinator provides at no cost to couples who are not yet contracted, as that information takes time to collect and update, and is a part of the service offered.
So, please consider the information on this page, create some sort of vision of your wedding in your mind, and come up with a budget that can be flexible. A wedding in Hawaii is not cheaper than a wedding on the mainland because it costs less; it is only cheaper for you because you typically have fewer guests and a less elaborate wedding on the islands than you would at home. It is our expertise that will guide you, our client, through the planning details and ways to work within your budget. For example, it is not realistic to plan a ceremony and reception for 40 guests at a private location, including officiant, location, coordination, flowers, entertainment, catering, decor, rentals, etc. on a budget of $5000. Does that mean you cannot get married in Hawaii? We say no. We say it means you need to adjust your wedding plans to accommodate your budget, or adjust your budget to accommodate the plans that you want. We hope the information is helpful! Happy reading!
HIRE A WEDDING COORDINATOR:. A Wedding Coordinator or Consultant will help you with the planning process. The coordinator will also facilitate and orchestrate the wedding day so that you can enjoy it!
Here is a list of some things to consider when beginning your wedding planning:
Your Wedding Style You must think very early in the process about what style of wedding you want, and how formal or informal an affair it will be. Although your wedding will be in Hawaii, do you want a Hawaiian wedding, a traditional wedding in Hawaii, or a combination of the two? Is this going to be a casual affair with Aloha wear and flip flops, or is this going to be a more formal affair with cocktail dresses and suits/tuxedos? This decision sets a tone for the entire wedding, and all decisions will be related to this choice. The tone of your wedding begins with your invitation, so it is important to decide how you want to convey your wedding style. The style and formality of the wedding will also influence your decisions about your attendants' attire, your wedding decor, and presentation. The time of day that you hold your wedding ceremony and reception may also affect the level of formality that you select. For example, a morning wedding and brunch reception will have a more casual style than an evening ceremony and reception. 
Type of Wedding Reception How casual or formal do you see your reception? Deciding your food service is important because it affects so many other decisions you will make regarding your reception, including the amount of staff you will need, the additional decor, the physical arrangement/floor plan, and more. Do you see tray-passed hors d'oeuvres and a plated meal , food stations, or a buffet? The next item to consider is if the wedding will be indoors or outdoors. If it is outdoors, it is important to have an indoor back up or tent the outside. The weather, especially in Hawaii, is highly unpredictable. Although it is clear one moment, a passing shower can destroy a wedding exposed to the elements. What type of entertainment do you want? Do you need a dance floor? Will children be included in the wedding festivities? These preferences dictate the type of setting you will choose for your reception and may increase or reduce certain limitations involved with the reception facility (whether or not they provide food, service, etc). Use the explanation below to assist you with determining the type of reception you desire.
WEDDING RECEPTION TYPES http://www.weddinglocation.com/receptionplanning.phtml
If you have determined the time and style of your wedding, and considered the number of guests and size of your budget, you probably have a good idea of the type of wedding reception that will suit your needs and desired. Listed below are the various types of wedding receptions.
Morning

A breakfast or brunch wedding reception is nice following a morning wedding ceremony at 9 or 10 a.m. This may be served buffet style, or guests may be seated at specified tables. If you choose buffet style, an assortment of fresh fruit, croissants, rolls and quiches, with a variety of cold cuts and cheeses are nice. Hot coffee, tea and fresh fruit juice should be served. With sit-down breakfast you may want to start with fresh juice and fruit, then serve an omelet or Eggs Benedict with toast or rolls for the entree. Hot coffee and tea are a must. Pastries or a wedding cake would be served. Serving alcoholic beverages is optional, but may include champagne, champagne punch, wine, screwdrivers or Bloody Marys.
Luncheon
These are similar to brunch wedding receptions and may be either sit-down or buffet style. They generally follow a late morning or high noon ceremony and are served between 12 and 2 p.m. Buffet luncheons may include a variety of salads, such as; potato, fruit, chicken, pasta or vegetables with dip. Poached salmon and shrimp are popular, but expensive. Sandwiches, cold cuts, and cheeses are often served, and are relatively inexpensive. Your reception coordinator or caterer will have suggestions, according to your budget.

Sit-down luncheons may be started by serving champagne, cocktails, and hors d'oeuvres while guests go through the receiving line. Once the guests are seated, a white wine may be served with soup or salad to start. Then boned breast of chicken, a chicken crepe or beef entrée with rice and vegetables is nice.

Serve coffee or tea with the wedding cake. Having espresso/cappuccino bar, or offering chocolate cups filled with cordials adds a nice touch.
Tea or cocktail
Tea receptions are generally held between 2:00 and 5:00 p.m., usually starting no later than 3:30 p.m. Coffee, tea or punch, both with and without champagne or wine, are generally served. Tea sandwiches or other finger food, along with wedding cake, are the basic requirement.

This type of wedding reception is the least expensive to have, and perfect when there is a large guest list and a small budget. If held in a home or garden, this type of reception will cut down on rentals. Cocktail wedding receptions are held between 4:00 and 7:30 p.m. If only cocktails are being served, with no dinner to follow, the wedding reception should start by 5:30 or 6:00 p.m. at the latest.

Usually champagne, wine punch or beer are served and in many cases there is an open bar, depending on the budget. Hot and cold hors d'oeuvres may be passes or set out on buffet tables.
Dinner
A dinner wedding reception is usually started sometime between 6:00 and 9:00 p.m. In many cases cocktails and hors d'oeuvres are served in the first hour, with a sit-down or buffet dinner following. Such cocktail service will add to your expenses. (To keep expenses down, offer wine and beer rather than a full bar.) A cocktail hour of some kind gives people time to go through the receiving line and mingle with friends, especially when a sit-down dinner follows.
Sit-down
As mentioned before, and quite obviously, this is a party where guests are served at the table. It usually, but not always, has a more formal feeling, and most of the time is preceded by a cocktail hour so the guests can mingle. A sit down wedding reception provides for more organization. It is easier to get the guests attention when the traditional ceremonies, such as cutting the cake, are to begin. On the other hand some people feel the sit-down service tends to quiet a party down, and discourages people from mingling.
Buffet
A buffet wedding reception is one in which the guests serve themselves. They may choose to sit at a table of their choice, or seats may be assigned. The buffet table is arranged with a variety of food and can be either round or oblong, with the food placed around the edge. It may also be rectangular with food served from behind one side, or with food displayed along both sides. The way the tables are arranged will be determined by the area available and the number of guests. Try to avoid making the guests wait in along line. For a larger number of guests have two buffet tables, one at each end of the room.
Food Station
Another idea which is unique and adds to the décor of the area, is what is called food stations. They are smaller buffet tables which are set up around the room, or in different areas of a garden. It is especially nice when each food station has a different theme and type of food. Decorate them with floral displays and unique serving pieces. They will not only look beautiful, but are a fun way for the guests to eat, and will increase the mingling of the guests. Try a beautiful display of cheeses with breads and fresh fruits displayed in baskets, or an ice-carved boat filled with jumbo shrimp and crab legs. Or you may add to this eating adventure a chef carving a roast, serving hot won tons from a wok, or a chicken crepe made right in front of the guests' eyes.






Number of Guests To Invite
This is always the tricky part. If you are like most couples, you are avoiding a large wedding by hosting a destination wedding in Hawaii. Already you have some leverage with your list because people will surely understand your limitations. However, you will still need to draft an A list and a B list. The A list is comprised of the first choice guests, and the B list is comprised of people you want to invite, but can only invite when people from the A list are unable to attend. It is important to know the estimated guest count when selecting your wedding site. Since Hawaii is a desirable place, many of your invited guests will try to turn your wedding into an excuse for a wonderful tropical vacation. So, it is safe to predict at least 50% of your guest list will attend. Since most couples have financial control of their destination weddings, they have a lot of control of the guest list. Typically, however, family members divide the guest list based on the following percentages: the parents of the bride and groom each invite one-third, and the bride and groom invite one-third. Or perhaps one-third each for the bride and the groom, and the parents can invite the rest.
 
The Dreaded Budget
Once it is determined who will pay for what part of the wedding, the bride & groom can create a budget and allocate the money as they see fit. It is good to have a realistic overall budget, and expect to go a little bit over it. This is one of the areas where your wedding planner will prove to be very helpful. Your wedding coordinator will be able to assist with suggestions that can help you stay within your budget by providing alternative, less-expensive options. You may want to have a credit card that is only used for the wedding costs. This will help you to easily place deposits for your wedding, as well as keep track of your wedding costs.
Some couples find it challenging to determine "who pays for what." Traditionally, the following people are responsible for the costs, but this is all flexible when hosting destination weddings:












The Bride and
Her Family:

  • The Bride's wedding attire, accessories, shoes, and lingerie
  • Bridesmaids' luncheon
  • Wedding coordination fees
  • Wedding location fees
  • Flowers (except for those listed in the groom's section)
  • The Groom's engagement gift and wedding ring
  • Invitation, announcements, enclosures, personal stationery, wedding programs, thank-you cards
  • Guest book
  • Guests' favors
  • Special bags of goodies for the out-of-town guests (includes everyone for a destination wedding)
  • Decor for the ceremony and reception
  • Ceremony and reception entertainment
  • Photography
  • Videography
  • Food, beverages, and wedding cake
  • Transportation to and from the wedding location(s)
  • Wedding gift from the bride to the groom
  • The appreciation gifts for the female attendants
  • Bride's garter and tossing garter
The Groom and His Family:
  • Bride's engagement and wedding ring
  • The Groom's wedding attire
  • The cost of the marriage license
  • The cost of the officiant and any church donation
  • Bride's bouquet, all boutonnieres and corsages (or leis that replace those), and going-away corsage
  • The appreciation gifts for the male attendants
  • The boutonnieres for the groom and male attendants
  • The rehearsal/out-of-town guest dinner
  • Honeymoon expense
Attendants:
  • Their wedding attire shoes, accessories, and alterations (you may wish to give the accessories to them as a gift)
  • Their transportation to and from the wedding location
  • Their gifts to the couple
  • A shower for the bride or couple
  • Bachelor and bachelorette parties
Guest's expenses include:
The groom's parents pay for their own transportation and lodgings as do out-of-town guests. Parents of the bride and groom may help in securing accommodations for the bridesmaids and ushers in the home of friends, or they may offer to pay any expenses they may care to assume.
Time of Year
This decision is especially important when planning your destination wedding because of costs and weather. It is more expensive to visit Hawaii during the holidays. In addition, the islands are more crowded during popular vacation times, like during the summer when most families are able to travel together. If you are dreaming of an outdoor wedding, then it is important to select a time of year when the weather will me more conducive for that. One of the benefits of a Hawaiian wedding is that an outdoor wedding in Hawaii can happen any time of the year! The time of year will influence your color theme of your wedding. For example, rich fall colors will be more appropriate during the autumn months, even in Hawaii.  
These are the elements of your wedding to consider when beginning your wedding planning. The most important decisions to make once you have established your decisions to these basics, reserve your ceremony and reception sites. It will be difficult to hire any professionals until the location(s) is/are determined. There are many other decisions to make along the way, but this will get you started and eliminate some of the overwhelming feelings you may be currently experiencing.
Article written by Tori Rogers, Hawaiian Island Wedding Planners, 12-20-05 and adjusted 3-25-08

WEDDING BUDGET: Where to begin

WEDDING BUDGET: Where to begin''''Written by Tori Rogers, Owner/Lead Coordinator
 
Congratulations! You are engaged and planning one of the most amazing days of your lives! Many couples want to know where to begin, and your wedding planning begins with a BUDGET. We all wish we could have an unlimited budget for our wedding to incorporate all of the elements we want on our wedding day. But, for many couples, this is not a realistic situation. Although budget is the least appealing element of your wedding to confront, it is the most important. Your budget range will influence what you can and cannot do for your wedding day celebration.

Based on research, the average cost of a wedding of 150 guests is approximately $30,000. Needless to say, unless you can call in a lot of favors from friends and family, that budget may not be very realistic in the state of Hawaii.

Before you make any financial commitments, determine the total amount of money you want to spend on your wedding and establish the elements of your wedding that are most important to you both. It is your day, so other people’s opinions should not deter you from doing what is most important to you. Keep in mind that in order to have those important things, it may be necessary to compromise on other areas of your wedding.

My experience is that the most important elements of a successful and fun wedding are your guest list, food/beverage, and entertainment. These are the most memorable parts of your wedding and the first things your guests will discuss afterwards. The photography and videography are important because they capture and document the memories and those special moments that you may not have personally witnessed. Your wedding day will seem like a blurry flash of time, so do not dismiss the importance of reliving the documented moments that represent this special day you have been planning and anticipating. Ambience is very important, so be sure to make your event aesthetically pleasing to your guests and the camera. You don’t need to go over the top; there are ways to make your wedding look fabulous without breaking the bank. Colored fabric and lighting will make your event magical, and your wedding coordinator will be your best resource on how to reduce costs and save you money without compromising your vision of your wedding.

Although tradition says that the bride's parents pay for the whole thing, this is frequently untrue for today's couples. In all likelihood your parents or other relatives may pay for your wedding or contribute a certain amount to it.

Some of the pitfalls in creating a wedding budget include the couple may not realizing how much each vendor will cost, whether there are any hidden fees at the venue or for the professional you are hiring, or they simply forget to build in tax and gratuity into their budget. The values listed here are a guide on what to expect expenses to be. In some cases, there isn't enough money allocated in a category to cover known expenses. Therefore the amounts in other categories need to be reduced, an alternative and less expensive choice needs to be made, and/or more total dollars need to become available. Just know that you will need to have a realistic budget, or be prepared to make some changes to your vision.

Ceremony: Up to 3% of budget
Ceremony Location Fee, officiant Fee/Donation, Rentals, Marriage License, Keepsake Certificate/Ketubah, Ring Bearer Pillow, Aisle Runner, Unity Candle or Sand Ceremony Items, Specialty Linens (chair sashes, etc), Permit Fees
Reception: Up to 46% of Budget
Reception Location Fee, Rentals, Specialty Linens, Food/Service, Bar/Bartender, Champagne/Wine, Signature Drinks, Beverages you will provide on your own, Wedding Cake, Cake Knife and Server Set,
Cake Topper, Cake Service, Liability Insurance
Photo/Video: up to 12% of Budget
Photographer’s Fee/Package, Videographer’s Fee/Package, Additional Prints/Albums/DVD’s, Disposable Wedding Cameras, Wedding Album, High Resolution DVD of Wedding Images,
Photo Booth
Stationery: up to 3% of Budget
Announcements, Invitations, Response Cards, Postage, Thank You Notes, Personalized Stationery,
Ceremony Programs, Reception Menus, Place Cards, Table Cards, Calligraphy, Guest Book/Wishing Well/Portrait/Scrapbook
Wedding Rings: up to 3% of Budget
Bride, Groom, Engraving
Transportation: up to 2% of Budget
Limousine/Car Rental, Shuttle for Guests, Valet Parking, Self-Parking
Gifts: up to 2% of Budget
Attendants’ Gifts, Bride/Groom Gift, Guest Favors, OOT Guest Bags
Attire: up to 10% of Budget
Bridal Gown, Bride’s Reception Dress, Alterations, Headpiece/Veil, Bride’s Accessories
Shoes, Lingerie/Hosiery/Undergarments, Beauty Services, Groom’s Tuxedo/Suit, Groom’s Accessories,
Attendants Attire
Flowers/Décor: up to 8% of Budget
Ceremony/Reception Site Decorations, Bride’s Bouquet, Bridesmaids’ Bouquets, Boutonnieres, Corsages (pin-on or wrist), Centerpieces/Table Décor, Hair Flowers, Chuppah/Arch/Arbor, Aisle/Pews/Chairs, Décor, Leis, Flower Girl Basket, Flower Shower, Specialty Lighting, Napkin Flowers
Entertainment: up to 6% of Budget
Ceremony, Cocktail Hour, Reception, Sound Equipment
Wedding Coordination : up to10% of Budget

Taxes, Gratuities, Service Charges: These should be incorporated into the fees in each category.

Miscellaneous:
Vanity Baskets for Bathrooms, Bridal Emergency Kit, Toasting Flutes, Framed Photos, Bubbles
Card Collection Box/Birdcage/Basket, Wedding Insurance, Memory Table, Travel Costs

Always remember that the wedding is an event and a marriage is a lifetime, so be sure to keep your focus on the health of your relationship. The budget and the details should never supersede the significance of celebrating this momentous occasion with the people you care about most. Arguing or ruining relations over wedding plans defeats the whole purpose of the actual celebration. Stay positive and keep an optimistic outlook about planning your wedding and the big day itself. Things are bound to go wrong, even with most careful execution. How you deal with it will either make it a positive memory you can laugh about or one that can ruin your day. Only you will know that a detail is overlooked, your guests will have no idea. But, if they see you are stressed and upset, then they will be, too. Their energy will feed off of yours. Keep in mind that even the most expensive or beautiful wedding is meaningless unless you have a great time sharing it with your loved ones. So, have a realistic budget and enjoy every moment of your dream day!


View Tori's presentation on Budget, Planning and Timeline at The Wedding Cafe's workshop from August 2010. http://www.vimeo.com/14135649